The way you treat people can greatly influence your experience of life
A while ago, I mentioned that someone I met told me that the way you see a person is essentially a reflection of yourself. Generally we don't have issues when people treat us nicely, but then we have issues when we feel that people treat us like crap.
I wanted to briefly share an experience of one of my friends and how the whole thing has ended positively. She has been having quite a difficult time with a particular work mate who happens to be in her team. Essentially he had issues with recognising certain things that someone in his role should have recognised, but liked to play the blame game and never admit that he was actually the problem. On top of that, the tone of his emails to my friend was quite condescending and not nice at all. It had reached a point where she really did not want to work with him anymore because he would drive her nuts.
Let me just say that this particular friend has been really working on herself over the past year. I'm so proud to see such positive changes in her - the way she acts, the fact that she is much more assertive, the fact that she has let go of so many issues that once held her back, and the fact that she is focusing on numero uno - herself. Not in a selfish way, but in a very loving way.
She, like me, used to be very emotional at work. She took pride (still does) in her work and would become emotionally invested in it and therefore upset if something didn't go the way she wanted or if there was some type of misguided criticism. But, with this particular work mate, she made the conscious decision to remove the emotion out of it, just state the facts, be very short and succinct in her conversations with him, and just "let it go". This had been going on for a few months and was one of the reasons why she wasn't feeling too crash hot about going to work. That was until yesterday.
What happened yesterday? Myself and another work mate decided to go out for a walk at lunchtime and when we got back, she told me that this work mate actually rang her up and APOLOGISED. Somehow he had time to reflect on his own actions and how the effected other people and he actually rang her up, apologised and admitted that she had some strengths that he didn't have and that by working together they'd get the job done! OMG! How amazing!!!! When she told me I just wanted to jump up and do a little dance around work!
This goes to show that if you take the time to reflect on how you treat others, even the smallest change in how you actually interact with them could pay huge dividends - for the better too!
Well done! You know who you are :D
I wanted to briefly share an experience of one of my friends and how the whole thing has ended positively. She has been having quite a difficult time with a particular work mate who happens to be in her team. Essentially he had issues with recognising certain things that someone in his role should have recognised, but liked to play the blame game and never admit that he was actually the problem. On top of that, the tone of his emails to my friend was quite condescending and not nice at all. It had reached a point where she really did not want to work with him anymore because he would drive her nuts.
Let me just say that this particular friend has been really working on herself over the past year. I'm so proud to see such positive changes in her - the way she acts, the fact that she is much more assertive, the fact that she has let go of so many issues that once held her back, and the fact that she is focusing on numero uno - herself. Not in a selfish way, but in a very loving way.
She, like me, used to be very emotional at work. She took pride (still does) in her work and would become emotionally invested in it and therefore upset if something didn't go the way she wanted or if there was some type of misguided criticism. But, with this particular work mate, she made the conscious decision to remove the emotion out of it, just state the facts, be very short and succinct in her conversations with him, and just "let it go". This had been going on for a few months and was one of the reasons why she wasn't feeling too crash hot about going to work. That was until yesterday.
What happened yesterday? Myself and another work mate decided to go out for a walk at lunchtime and when we got back, she told me that this work mate actually rang her up and APOLOGISED. Somehow he had time to reflect on his own actions and how the effected other people and he actually rang her up, apologised and admitted that she had some strengths that he didn't have and that by working together they'd get the job done! OMG! How amazing!!!! When she told me I just wanted to jump up and do a little dance around work!
This goes to show that if you take the time to reflect on how you treat others, even the smallest change in how you actually interact with them could pay huge dividends - for the better too!
Well done! You know who you are :D