When in doubt, focus on service
Every morning I take a couple of minutes to do angel card readings for myself. Today, one of the cards really stood out, and that was the card "Integrity" which basically means align your actions with your values. I thought it was very fitting giving my experience yesterday evening.
As you know, I believe that there is no such thing as a coincidence, so when out of the blue a friend of mine msged me and invited me along to this event about an existing travel offering, I thought "What the heck" and popped along.
At the end of the day, it ended up being some "pyramid scheme" involving hugely discounted travel packages. When the guy stood up and was explaining it, he had the typical passion and tenacity that you would generally expect from a motivational speaker and it was clear he was trying to make the whole thing out to be a very exciting prospect. Then they got other speakers to come up and chat and talk about how awesome the whole thing was, etc etc etc. Throughout all of that, something didn't sit that right with me and I was really trying to put my finger on it but I couldn't.
The other speakers who got up were basically all entrepreneurs who owned "multiple businesses" but all said that this opportunity was going to give them passive income and make then be able to have a life they had always wanted. Another apparently very high profile person (I had no idea who she was) got up and was saying that now was the right opportunity to do it but only if it resonated with you.
Of course, the opportunity was incredibly attractive - passive income for life! Just recruit 6 people and sit back and watch the money flow into your bank account! We will give you all the tools! Of course when you sit there and see the "facts" of what is presented, you think "yea this makes complete sense because I'm going to save lots of money in the long term blah blah blah blah blah". At the end of the night, I was asked whether I was interested to join and I said I had to think about it because I had that feeling that something was not quite right - I wanted to take the time out and meditate on it, or at least ask for hints in my dreams that night to show me the way. I was extremely confused because I had readings from psychics telling me I was going to travel again and something would happen to me in November that would quickly propel me to change careers etc etc so I thought that the fat that my friend contacted me out of the blue for a "travel offering" was what the cards were talking about. But still - I was confused... I'm not the type of person who likes travelling and staying in 5 star hotels and being locked into a specific holiday package. In fact, I'm the complete opposite - I like travelling by myself, staying at local's houses (i.e. Airbnb) and doing what the locals do. I hate being locked into stuff when I'm on my holiday - I want the flexibility to do whatever I want to do on that particular day.
Anyway, I had a dream last night, and to cut a long story short, it was about 3 doctors, and one doctor (who funnily enough was an acquaintance of mine who I think is really insecure and quite a narcissistic person - she's not a doctor btw but in my dream she was) told me that she had the answer to my "problem" and that the answer was spiritually based. So I woke up thinking "wtf?!" and did my card reading when the "Integrity" card flew out. Then it made sense.
Do what aligns with my values. The reason why I am changing careers is not motivated by money whatsoever. I'm a firm believer that if you do something you are passionate about, you will get whatever money you need. Similarly, if you do something to help people, then that is always the right answer and will make you feel happy with your choice.
I looked back at this "travel offer" and quickly made the decision "no". Why? Well, for the reasons above, the travel packages are not suitable to a person like me who really likes flexibility and to be like a local. Secondly, this was a scheme to make money, and to me, there was no underlying way of helping others. Sure you might help others by giving them access to really cheap travel packages, but you know what? The whole scheme requires not only an up front fee but also a monthly fee, but of course they'll waive the monthly fee if you get 4 friends to join! Can you see the ripple effect? This scheme to me is completely selfish - you are motivated to get 4 ppl on board so that your monthly fees are waived. From my perspective, I do not even want to think about those "under me" who are desperately trying to get 4 ppl to join up and in the mean time are paying crazy fees to be part of the scheme. I don't want to know that I have forced a person to behave in such a manner that could actually be detrimental to themselves and to other people. I'm the type of person who, if I am passionate about something, I will try it out and then talk to other people about it. That is why I love massage and natural healing, and I believe it is this passion that makes the people I talk to go to MM when they ask for a recommendation, and it is this passion that has made you read my blog and decide to take your own action steps to make you life better. For me, the stuff I'm passionate about has no downsides, and I can see the positive effect it has on the particular person when they decide to follow what I recommend. I don't have that passion when I think about this travel gig - kudos to those who do but it's definitely not for me.
At the end of the day, if you're stuck with making a choice, do what you feel is right for you - don't do something because you feel pressured into it. Only you will know whether it is right for you - I always think back to Doreen Virtue's card which says "If you get nervous, focus on service". Make the choice that is beneficial for others and chances are, that will be the right choice.
Speaking on doing what is right for you or your soul, have you ever experienced that when you do something that is wrong, you get some sort of physical reaction? As a child, I remember growing up in a household where my parents never ever swore. I remember the first time I swore, this almost shiver-life sensation ran down my spine. Now that I look back, I had that sensation every time I made a decision that was not in line with my values. Another example is lying. I don't get those sensations now as regretfully, things like swearing are part of my daily life. My work husband tends to say I have a potty mouth :P It's probably an "addiction" that I need to make a conscious effort to stop.
In any case, it shows you that you do have the power to make the right choice - just step back, take a deep breath, take some time out and really consider the options. For me, once I answered the question "what were my values" and went back to the whole premise as to why I was changing careers, the answer became very clear. Of course there is nothing stopping you from asking another person for an opinion, and I remember msging my friend in Scotland and telling her about it, and she had a point in saying that if my gut was saying something was wrong, then I should probably listen to it!
As you know, I believe that there is no such thing as a coincidence, so when out of the blue a friend of mine msged me and invited me along to this event about an existing travel offering, I thought "What the heck" and popped along.
At the end of the day, it ended up being some "pyramid scheme" involving hugely discounted travel packages. When the guy stood up and was explaining it, he had the typical passion and tenacity that you would generally expect from a motivational speaker and it was clear he was trying to make the whole thing out to be a very exciting prospect. Then they got other speakers to come up and chat and talk about how awesome the whole thing was, etc etc etc. Throughout all of that, something didn't sit that right with me and I was really trying to put my finger on it but I couldn't.
The other speakers who got up were basically all entrepreneurs who owned "multiple businesses" but all said that this opportunity was going to give them passive income and make then be able to have a life they had always wanted. Another apparently very high profile person (I had no idea who she was) got up and was saying that now was the right opportunity to do it but only if it resonated with you.
Of course, the opportunity was incredibly attractive - passive income for life! Just recruit 6 people and sit back and watch the money flow into your bank account! We will give you all the tools! Of course when you sit there and see the "facts" of what is presented, you think "yea this makes complete sense because I'm going to save lots of money in the long term blah blah blah blah blah". At the end of the night, I was asked whether I was interested to join and I said I had to think about it because I had that feeling that something was not quite right - I wanted to take the time out and meditate on it, or at least ask for hints in my dreams that night to show me the way. I was extremely confused because I had readings from psychics telling me I was going to travel again and something would happen to me in November that would quickly propel me to change careers etc etc so I thought that the fat that my friend contacted me out of the blue for a "travel offering" was what the cards were talking about. But still - I was confused... I'm not the type of person who likes travelling and staying in 5 star hotels and being locked into a specific holiday package. In fact, I'm the complete opposite - I like travelling by myself, staying at local's houses (i.e. Airbnb) and doing what the locals do. I hate being locked into stuff when I'm on my holiday - I want the flexibility to do whatever I want to do on that particular day.
Anyway, I had a dream last night, and to cut a long story short, it was about 3 doctors, and one doctor (who funnily enough was an acquaintance of mine who I think is really insecure and quite a narcissistic person - she's not a doctor btw but in my dream she was) told me that she had the answer to my "problem" and that the answer was spiritually based. So I woke up thinking "wtf?!" and did my card reading when the "Integrity" card flew out. Then it made sense.
Do what aligns with my values. The reason why I am changing careers is not motivated by money whatsoever. I'm a firm believer that if you do something you are passionate about, you will get whatever money you need. Similarly, if you do something to help people, then that is always the right answer and will make you feel happy with your choice.
I looked back at this "travel offer" and quickly made the decision "no". Why? Well, for the reasons above, the travel packages are not suitable to a person like me who really likes flexibility and to be like a local. Secondly, this was a scheme to make money, and to me, there was no underlying way of helping others. Sure you might help others by giving them access to really cheap travel packages, but you know what? The whole scheme requires not only an up front fee but also a monthly fee, but of course they'll waive the monthly fee if you get 4 friends to join! Can you see the ripple effect? This scheme to me is completely selfish - you are motivated to get 4 ppl on board so that your monthly fees are waived. From my perspective, I do not even want to think about those "under me" who are desperately trying to get 4 ppl to join up and in the mean time are paying crazy fees to be part of the scheme. I don't want to know that I have forced a person to behave in such a manner that could actually be detrimental to themselves and to other people. I'm the type of person who, if I am passionate about something, I will try it out and then talk to other people about it. That is why I love massage and natural healing, and I believe it is this passion that makes the people I talk to go to MM when they ask for a recommendation, and it is this passion that has made you read my blog and decide to take your own action steps to make you life better. For me, the stuff I'm passionate about has no downsides, and I can see the positive effect it has on the particular person when they decide to follow what I recommend. I don't have that passion when I think about this travel gig - kudos to those who do but it's definitely not for me.
At the end of the day, if you're stuck with making a choice, do what you feel is right for you - don't do something because you feel pressured into it. Only you will know whether it is right for you - I always think back to Doreen Virtue's card which says "If you get nervous, focus on service". Make the choice that is beneficial for others and chances are, that will be the right choice.
Speaking on doing what is right for you or your soul, have you ever experienced that when you do something that is wrong, you get some sort of physical reaction? As a child, I remember growing up in a household where my parents never ever swore. I remember the first time I swore, this almost shiver-life sensation ran down my spine. Now that I look back, I had that sensation every time I made a decision that was not in line with my values. Another example is lying. I don't get those sensations now as regretfully, things like swearing are part of my daily life. My work husband tends to say I have a potty mouth :P It's probably an "addiction" that I need to make a conscious effort to stop.
In any case, it shows you that you do have the power to make the right choice - just step back, take a deep breath, take some time out and really consider the options. For me, once I answered the question "what were my values" and went back to the whole premise as to why I was changing careers, the answer became very clear. Of course there is nothing stopping you from asking another person for an opinion, and I remember msging my friend in Scotland and telling her about it, and she had a point in saying that if my gut was saying something was wrong, then I should probably listen to it!