Meeting your kindred spirit
If you've been reading my blog you would have noticed that over the past few weeks a certain someone had taken my attention. It turns out the last week had been a bit of a rollercoaster, but it all made sense when SK told me today that he was my kindred spirit (or rather, my spirit guides were hassling her to tell me that he was a kindred spirit).
So what exactly IS a kindred spirit? That was the exact question I put to SK today. It's pretty much similar to the concept of a "soul mate", but in between a soul mate and your twin flame (haha I can understand you guys going "WTF" right now).
A soul mate is essentially a soul that has decided to stick around you to help you learn certain lessons. You've probably had a number of past lives together - which is why you feel like you've known them before when you initially meet them, and relationships with them are pretty much effortless. An example of this is you being really great friends with a person but you don't necessarily have to check in all the time. I have numerous soul mates around me as friends - I don't have to check in with them for up to a year or so but when we catch up it's like we just take off from where we left last time and it's so comfortable and effortless.
A twin flame is basically you. Well, apparently they're basically the "other half" - people say that your soul can be torn into two or more and generally the twin flame is that other part of you so when you eventually meet them, the feeling can be pretty intense. Twin flames don't necessarily reincarnate at the same time... often one soul will be in the "physical realm" and they will be assisted by their twin flame on the other side. Some twin flame relationships last, as in you get that "happily ever after" life after meeting "the one", whilst others come in and throw your entire life upside down for a while and off they go again (because the time isn't right for both of you to come together to move forward together).
A kindred spirit is in between (but COULD be your twin flame). They are generally the "hey I feel like I've known you for ages" sort of thing.. but a bit more. You connect on a spiritual level, you're on the same "wavelength" and their lives are quite similar to your own (i.e. they're almost on a similar journey as yourself). They're usually here to help teach us a certain lesson - or at least help us be aware of certain things. With this guy I have been talking about, I can definitely say I get that. When we met (maybe not me but I know it happened with him), there was something there that couldn't be explained. We had an intense spiritual connection. We have similar interests and similar experiences. There was some sort of attraction which was somewhat undeniable, and then the powers that be conspired so that we "got together". Nevertheless, some things happened this week which got me seriously questioning what the heck he was.
He decided he needed to "slow down" and "ground himself" so that got me questioning whether this is what I had manifested and what I needed. I started becoming distant from him because I realised that he was incredibly self-centered. I actually made the decision yesterday during the day that I was happy to walk away because that was not what I wanted (although there were plenty of good attributes as well).
Later that night he phoned me up and we ended up talking for hours. Whilst the majority of it was him telling me his issues with his work and me giving my interpretation and advice on it, it ended up moving to a different level. I told him I felt that he was all about himself, because 80% of the conversations we had was all about him and he rarely ever asked about me. To my surprise he was actually listening and was willing to take that on board. Of course to his credit he pointed out that I was less than forthcoming with my own feelings and being open with him whereas he was very happy to be open with me, to which I said "I gave you openings but you never responded so to me that means you don't care". I think that hit home to him and made him reassess his actions. In any event, I believe it was a big step forward for me because, as SK correctly pointed out to me today, I always had a feeling that I was not worthy of love and therefore I would just put up with behaviour that I didn't necessarily agree with. With him I have learnt to speak up for myself (albeit it takes a lot of prodding and confrontation from him in order to draw it out of me). The past few days made me realise that I didn't want to be around a person who was so self-centered, and that I wanted to be with someone who truly cared about me and showed it.
Anyway, to me I was relieved that I could finally express that to him. I know he's going through a lot of things right now - work is crap, he feels ungrounded and knows he needs to slow down and take a real good look at his life, and he has also just come out of a relationship and needs time to process it before he can move on. For me, because he didn't "show" to me that he cared, I stopped opening up to him but I admit I am also guarded because I do know that I also don't want to be treated as the rebound girl. In addition, I'm keeping an open mind about what may or may not happen in Hamilton Island next week! It felt really good to be completely transparent with him and set the expectations so that we were both on the same page.
Whether or not the purpose of us meeting in this lifetime is to be in another relationship with each other (I know we were previously lovers in a past life) or whether this is just a fleeting thing so that he can teach me things that I need to know, I don't know. I'm so sick of over analysing stuff and coming up with stupid scenarios that probably will not happen. So at this stage we're both going to go slow and whatever happens, happens. And you know what? I'm ok with that!
So what exactly IS a kindred spirit? That was the exact question I put to SK today. It's pretty much similar to the concept of a "soul mate", but in between a soul mate and your twin flame (haha I can understand you guys going "WTF" right now).
A soul mate is essentially a soul that has decided to stick around you to help you learn certain lessons. You've probably had a number of past lives together - which is why you feel like you've known them before when you initially meet them, and relationships with them are pretty much effortless. An example of this is you being really great friends with a person but you don't necessarily have to check in all the time. I have numerous soul mates around me as friends - I don't have to check in with them for up to a year or so but when we catch up it's like we just take off from where we left last time and it's so comfortable and effortless.
A twin flame is basically you. Well, apparently they're basically the "other half" - people say that your soul can be torn into two or more and generally the twin flame is that other part of you so when you eventually meet them, the feeling can be pretty intense. Twin flames don't necessarily reincarnate at the same time... often one soul will be in the "physical realm" and they will be assisted by their twin flame on the other side. Some twin flame relationships last, as in you get that "happily ever after" life after meeting "the one", whilst others come in and throw your entire life upside down for a while and off they go again (because the time isn't right for both of you to come together to move forward together).
A kindred spirit is in between (but COULD be your twin flame). They are generally the "hey I feel like I've known you for ages" sort of thing.. but a bit more. You connect on a spiritual level, you're on the same "wavelength" and their lives are quite similar to your own (i.e. they're almost on a similar journey as yourself). They're usually here to help teach us a certain lesson - or at least help us be aware of certain things. With this guy I have been talking about, I can definitely say I get that. When we met (maybe not me but I know it happened with him), there was something there that couldn't be explained. We had an intense spiritual connection. We have similar interests and similar experiences. There was some sort of attraction which was somewhat undeniable, and then the powers that be conspired so that we "got together". Nevertheless, some things happened this week which got me seriously questioning what the heck he was.
He decided he needed to "slow down" and "ground himself" so that got me questioning whether this is what I had manifested and what I needed. I started becoming distant from him because I realised that he was incredibly self-centered. I actually made the decision yesterday during the day that I was happy to walk away because that was not what I wanted (although there were plenty of good attributes as well).
Later that night he phoned me up and we ended up talking for hours. Whilst the majority of it was him telling me his issues with his work and me giving my interpretation and advice on it, it ended up moving to a different level. I told him I felt that he was all about himself, because 80% of the conversations we had was all about him and he rarely ever asked about me. To my surprise he was actually listening and was willing to take that on board. Of course to his credit he pointed out that I was less than forthcoming with my own feelings and being open with him whereas he was very happy to be open with me, to which I said "I gave you openings but you never responded so to me that means you don't care". I think that hit home to him and made him reassess his actions. In any event, I believe it was a big step forward for me because, as SK correctly pointed out to me today, I always had a feeling that I was not worthy of love and therefore I would just put up with behaviour that I didn't necessarily agree with. With him I have learnt to speak up for myself (albeit it takes a lot of prodding and confrontation from him in order to draw it out of me). The past few days made me realise that I didn't want to be around a person who was so self-centered, and that I wanted to be with someone who truly cared about me and showed it.
Anyway, to me I was relieved that I could finally express that to him. I know he's going through a lot of things right now - work is crap, he feels ungrounded and knows he needs to slow down and take a real good look at his life, and he has also just come out of a relationship and needs time to process it before he can move on. For me, because he didn't "show" to me that he cared, I stopped opening up to him but I admit I am also guarded because I do know that I also don't want to be treated as the rebound girl. In addition, I'm keeping an open mind about what may or may not happen in Hamilton Island next week! It felt really good to be completely transparent with him and set the expectations so that we were both on the same page.
Whether or not the purpose of us meeting in this lifetime is to be in another relationship with each other (I know we were previously lovers in a past life) or whether this is just a fleeting thing so that he can teach me things that I need to know, I don't know. I'm so sick of over analysing stuff and coming up with stupid scenarios that probably will not happen. So at this stage we're both going to go slow and whatever happens, happens. And you know what? I'm ok with that!