Get out of your drama
I have always been the type of person who wanted to understand why I acted in a particular way or why I had certain blockages around my body (e.g. sacral chakra and throat chakra) and over the past few months I had been trying to get to the bottom of these issues during my own personal meditation.
Suffice to say that during my own personal meditation, I didn't get that much insight into what the blocks were. In fact, my arms would just start moving or I'd feel an energy shift and that would be it - none the more enlightened! At the shamanic retreat that I went to, we did a number of things including healing past life issues and soul retrieval. During these sessions, I didn't really get any flashes of insight into what had happened to me previously. In fact, when my partner was doing the past life work on me, she told me where my main blockages were but when she asked my guides for more information about them, she wasn't given anything. Hmph!
What I have now learnt is that we need to stop having a need to know every single detail about what has gone on in our life or past lives. The danger is that we become so fixated on who we were in the past and what happened in the past to make you you today, that we forget the lesson that the past was trying to teach and end up going in an endless loop of past energy. As some of you are aware, energy flows where attention goes, and if you keep holding onto the past, then it's going to be pretty difficult for you to move forward and embrace who you are in the present.
For those who start the spiritual path, things can be so exciting because you becoming open to a lot of new concepts. You start learning about things like reincarnation, energies, how time is not really linear, there is no past and no future - only the present, archetypes, manifestation, etc. In respect of past lives, it's a pretty cool concept and extremely helpful to put the spotlight on some issues you are having today. However, stop turning it into a drama. Who cares if you were Cleopatra? Cleopatra might not really have had the best time in this day and age. Who cares if you were a famous actress, etc? What matters is the underlying lesson, not necessarily who you were. You don't want to become a person who uses spirituality as a scapegoat to avoid responsibility for your own life (e.g. "Well in a past life I always had issues with men in relationships so that's why I can't find a decent man now").
This then leads to people who constantly turn their lives into drama. Be careful with this as you don't necessarily want to fall into the dangerous victim mentality. As the law of attraction goes, like attracts like. If you are constantly complaining of all these things happening to you, then you're going to have to take a good look at yourself. In what ways are you being overly dramatic in your own life? What are you not letting go of in order to move forward? And if you've identified the particular habit, what is the underlying gain that you feel from continuing to hold onto it?
I'll give you an example. Do you know a person who constantly complains about things? Essentially everything is about them and how they are not understood by others. The complaints can range from whether it's someone being rude to them in a store or a restaurant, how they can't seem to be able to find a stable job, the person they had booked an appointment with is always running late and eats into their time, etc. I'm pretty sure you know those kind of people.
My advice to people like that is to try to think about what the other person is going through before reacting and taking things personally. For example, if someone is rude to you in store, maybe it's because they've had a really crap day. Maybe they got up extra early in the morning because one of their children had to be rushed to hospital because they were feeling sick, and then you had to leave them there to go to work to earn some money to look after them. If an appointment is running late, maybe it's because the person in front of you really needed someone to give them the time and attention that they were really craving for. You get the picture.
At the end of the day, we need to stop focusing our energy on things that do not serve us. The past was in the past, the only moment is the present so let's try to focus on our potential rather than who we were. We also need to stop looking externally for an answer to our issues and look internally. Don't give away your power to someone else - be responsible for our own actions, responses and lives! We hold all of the answers to our questions inside of us (including those questions in relation to what you could do to fix a particular issue). If only we took the time to tune into our own innate wisdom and to listen to what is being said. Don't get me wrong - it's damn tough! However I'm consciously trying to do the work to shift it, and the trying it at least a step in the right direction.
Suffice to say that during my own personal meditation, I didn't get that much insight into what the blocks were. In fact, my arms would just start moving or I'd feel an energy shift and that would be it - none the more enlightened! At the shamanic retreat that I went to, we did a number of things including healing past life issues and soul retrieval. During these sessions, I didn't really get any flashes of insight into what had happened to me previously. In fact, when my partner was doing the past life work on me, she told me where my main blockages were but when she asked my guides for more information about them, she wasn't given anything. Hmph!
What I have now learnt is that we need to stop having a need to know every single detail about what has gone on in our life or past lives. The danger is that we become so fixated on who we were in the past and what happened in the past to make you you today, that we forget the lesson that the past was trying to teach and end up going in an endless loop of past energy. As some of you are aware, energy flows where attention goes, and if you keep holding onto the past, then it's going to be pretty difficult for you to move forward and embrace who you are in the present.
For those who start the spiritual path, things can be so exciting because you becoming open to a lot of new concepts. You start learning about things like reincarnation, energies, how time is not really linear, there is no past and no future - only the present, archetypes, manifestation, etc. In respect of past lives, it's a pretty cool concept and extremely helpful to put the spotlight on some issues you are having today. However, stop turning it into a drama. Who cares if you were Cleopatra? Cleopatra might not really have had the best time in this day and age. Who cares if you were a famous actress, etc? What matters is the underlying lesson, not necessarily who you were. You don't want to become a person who uses spirituality as a scapegoat to avoid responsibility for your own life (e.g. "Well in a past life I always had issues with men in relationships so that's why I can't find a decent man now").
This then leads to people who constantly turn their lives into drama. Be careful with this as you don't necessarily want to fall into the dangerous victim mentality. As the law of attraction goes, like attracts like. If you are constantly complaining of all these things happening to you, then you're going to have to take a good look at yourself. In what ways are you being overly dramatic in your own life? What are you not letting go of in order to move forward? And if you've identified the particular habit, what is the underlying gain that you feel from continuing to hold onto it?
I'll give you an example. Do you know a person who constantly complains about things? Essentially everything is about them and how they are not understood by others. The complaints can range from whether it's someone being rude to them in a store or a restaurant, how they can't seem to be able to find a stable job, the person they had booked an appointment with is always running late and eats into their time, etc. I'm pretty sure you know those kind of people.
My advice to people like that is to try to think about what the other person is going through before reacting and taking things personally. For example, if someone is rude to you in store, maybe it's because they've had a really crap day. Maybe they got up extra early in the morning because one of their children had to be rushed to hospital because they were feeling sick, and then you had to leave them there to go to work to earn some money to look after them. If an appointment is running late, maybe it's because the person in front of you really needed someone to give them the time and attention that they were really craving for. You get the picture.
At the end of the day, we need to stop focusing our energy on things that do not serve us. The past was in the past, the only moment is the present so let's try to focus on our potential rather than who we were. We also need to stop looking externally for an answer to our issues and look internally. Don't give away your power to someone else - be responsible for our own actions, responses and lives! We hold all of the answers to our questions inside of us (including those questions in relation to what you could do to fix a particular issue). If only we took the time to tune into our own innate wisdom and to listen to what is being said. Don't get me wrong - it's damn tough! However I'm consciously trying to do the work to shift it, and the trying it at least a step in the right direction.