Moving on
I've had writer's block of late and had tried to draft two posts but part way through the drafting process I abandoned it because it didn't feel right to share at that in time. Anyways - today I thought I'd post my thoughts (and part draft) on the topic of "moving on".. and how some people just refuse to take responsibility to change their lives.
As most of you know, I am studying the Diploma of Energy Healing at the moment and as a result of that, I have made a lot of friends who are on the same wavelength as me in terms of spiritual and conscious thinking. I don't know whether it's kind of part and parcel of the whole spiritual path, but in the past 6 weeks, 3 of my friends have resigned from their current jobs and don't necessarily have a plan for what their next steps will be. The great thing is that all 3 of them are happy with that decision and made it on the basis that their current day jobs just weren't fulfilling for them - they all know that they have a different role to play in this life and have wholeheartedly embraced it - that is sooo amazing and it takes a brave person to move on from what no longer serves them. Why? Because for some reason we like to be comfortable. We don't really like being pushed out of our comfort zone - we want rainbows and unicorns - all the time. I'm not sure that's a very good attitude to take.
Let me take you now to a concept that I have just learned from studying the Science of Medical Intuition - an online course driven by Caroline Myss (I love this woman) and Norm Shealy. I'm about a third of the way through this course but the first part of it has been pretty eye-opening in the way that Caroline Myss talks about the concept of energy within our systems and that we are the investment bankers. Here's my brief summary of this brilliant idea:
When we are born, we are given a finite amount of energy - think of it like cash. We are given $X of cash to invest in any way we choose. We can either choose to invest in the present time (i.e. have all of your energy working with you right now to help you fulfil whatever it is you want to do), or you can invest pockets here and there in things from your past (or potentially your future). An example of the latter would be "investing" your energy in remember how hurt you were when someone made a particular comment to you, investing your energy in remembering that "boys treat you like shit" therefore you will forever remain single, remembering the last job where you were fired and therefore feel that you have no confidence to do any other job, not forgiving a person because they treated you really badly in the past, etc. Sound familiar?
The whole point of this is - why are you investing in something that doesn't give you an ROI (i.e. return on investment)? If you had a finite set of resources, then why use the resources on something that just isn't going to help you? Wouldn't you rather put that investment in something that is going to be beneficial for you?
Having it put like that by Caroline Myss is a great slap in the face (in a good way - this is why I like her - she is a realist, no bells and whistles, she'll tell you like it is - whether you like it or not). And you know what? That resonates with me - and for me personally - I completely agree. If things aren't going to make you feel better, why continue to do it? Caroline also mentions that if you don't have enough "energy" or "cash" to invest in something - you need to get it from somewhere else. Where you ask? Either other people (energy vampires beware) or yourself - and by yourself we are talking about your own body. Hands up if you've seen some person age soo much because of all of the stress that they have in their lives? That's a perfect example.
Look, I get it - sometimes it's hard to make that big choice so you want to stay in the constant cycle of where you are right now.. and then you complain about it and do nothing about it. My response to that is this - you are allowed to complain a few times, but if you do NOTHING to change the situation, then quit complaining because YOU have the power to make yourself feel better! No one else does, and stop relying on others to make yourself feel happy because you are essentially exonerating yourself from any responsibility in your own life.
If you are in a perpetual cycle of not liking your job, not being able to find something that makes you happy, etc - then the only piece of advice I can give you is this - break out of what you are doing and try something new. If you don't, you're essentially constantly playing a broken record on repeat.
Remember, we are the creators of our own reality. If something isn't quite right, we have the power to fix it. Taking that step can be scary, I know - I've done it, and I'm still in that step. But, once that step is taken, you will feel a lot better for it. Do I regret leaving my law job for a job as a massage therapist/energy healer? Hell no - I am so much happier and haven't had the feeling of "oh man I'm going to be stabbed in the back" or "I need to show how invaluable I am" or "People are stupid" at all. Not one bit - and I'm 6 weeks into this. Granted there are weeks where it's really slow and I get a bit worried, but I have a great support network and I know deep down that this "down turn" is temporary.
I had a client yesterday who told me that when she walked away from 13 years of marriage she felt like a load had been lifted off her shoulders and she is happier now than she was before. Similarly, my bf does not for one day regret turning his back on his engineering career and studying traditional chinese medicine full time even though that has been a huge hit on him financially.
All I'm saying is if that you have had this feeling or an urge that you could be doing something more or you would rather be doing something else than what you are doing now, then please take a good look at that and consider making the jump (after of course weighing all the other things that you have). For those who will scream at me and say "but I don't know what I want to do!" - take the opportunity to do a lot of personal development so that you can figure out what it is that you want to do. Word of warning - this may not be easy, and it may take a while for you to figure it out - but you WILL figure it out. Keep persevering, ask the Universe for help and follow through with the hunches you are getting and you will eventually find your way.
Don't live your life in an endless loop - cut it open and let it fly!
As most of you know, I am studying the Diploma of Energy Healing at the moment and as a result of that, I have made a lot of friends who are on the same wavelength as me in terms of spiritual and conscious thinking. I don't know whether it's kind of part and parcel of the whole spiritual path, but in the past 6 weeks, 3 of my friends have resigned from their current jobs and don't necessarily have a plan for what their next steps will be. The great thing is that all 3 of them are happy with that decision and made it on the basis that their current day jobs just weren't fulfilling for them - they all know that they have a different role to play in this life and have wholeheartedly embraced it - that is sooo amazing and it takes a brave person to move on from what no longer serves them. Why? Because for some reason we like to be comfortable. We don't really like being pushed out of our comfort zone - we want rainbows and unicorns - all the time. I'm not sure that's a very good attitude to take.
Let me take you now to a concept that I have just learned from studying the Science of Medical Intuition - an online course driven by Caroline Myss (I love this woman) and Norm Shealy. I'm about a third of the way through this course but the first part of it has been pretty eye-opening in the way that Caroline Myss talks about the concept of energy within our systems and that we are the investment bankers. Here's my brief summary of this brilliant idea:
When we are born, we are given a finite amount of energy - think of it like cash. We are given $X of cash to invest in any way we choose. We can either choose to invest in the present time (i.e. have all of your energy working with you right now to help you fulfil whatever it is you want to do), or you can invest pockets here and there in things from your past (or potentially your future). An example of the latter would be "investing" your energy in remember how hurt you were when someone made a particular comment to you, investing your energy in remembering that "boys treat you like shit" therefore you will forever remain single, remembering the last job where you were fired and therefore feel that you have no confidence to do any other job, not forgiving a person because they treated you really badly in the past, etc. Sound familiar?
The whole point of this is - why are you investing in something that doesn't give you an ROI (i.e. return on investment)? If you had a finite set of resources, then why use the resources on something that just isn't going to help you? Wouldn't you rather put that investment in something that is going to be beneficial for you?
Having it put like that by Caroline Myss is a great slap in the face (in a good way - this is why I like her - she is a realist, no bells and whistles, she'll tell you like it is - whether you like it or not). And you know what? That resonates with me - and for me personally - I completely agree. If things aren't going to make you feel better, why continue to do it? Caroline also mentions that if you don't have enough "energy" or "cash" to invest in something - you need to get it from somewhere else. Where you ask? Either other people (energy vampires beware) or yourself - and by yourself we are talking about your own body. Hands up if you've seen some person age soo much because of all of the stress that they have in their lives? That's a perfect example.
Look, I get it - sometimes it's hard to make that big choice so you want to stay in the constant cycle of where you are right now.. and then you complain about it and do nothing about it. My response to that is this - you are allowed to complain a few times, but if you do NOTHING to change the situation, then quit complaining because YOU have the power to make yourself feel better! No one else does, and stop relying on others to make yourself feel happy because you are essentially exonerating yourself from any responsibility in your own life.
If you are in a perpetual cycle of not liking your job, not being able to find something that makes you happy, etc - then the only piece of advice I can give you is this - break out of what you are doing and try something new. If you don't, you're essentially constantly playing a broken record on repeat.
Remember, we are the creators of our own reality. If something isn't quite right, we have the power to fix it. Taking that step can be scary, I know - I've done it, and I'm still in that step. But, once that step is taken, you will feel a lot better for it. Do I regret leaving my law job for a job as a massage therapist/energy healer? Hell no - I am so much happier and haven't had the feeling of "oh man I'm going to be stabbed in the back" or "I need to show how invaluable I am" or "People are stupid" at all. Not one bit - and I'm 6 weeks into this. Granted there are weeks where it's really slow and I get a bit worried, but I have a great support network and I know deep down that this "down turn" is temporary.
I had a client yesterday who told me that when she walked away from 13 years of marriage she felt like a load had been lifted off her shoulders and she is happier now than she was before. Similarly, my bf does not for one day regret turning his back on his engineering career and studying traditional chinese medicine full time even though that has been a huge hit on him financially.
All I'm saying is if that you have had this feeling or an urge that you could be doing something more or you would rather be doing something else than what you are doing now, then please take a good look at that and consider making the jump (after of course weighing all the other things that you have). For those who will scream at me and say "but I don't know what I want to do!" - take the opportunity to do a lot of personal development so that you can figure out what it is that you want to do. Word of warning - this may not be easy, and it may take a while for you to figure it out - but you WILL figure it out. Keep persevering, ask the Universe for help and follow through with the hunches you are getting and you will eventually find your way.
Don't live your life in an endless loop - cut it open and let it fly!